Magic and the Wonder Book
May 15, 2016

“The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.” W.B. Yeats We were first introduced to the concept of a wonder book when Cai was six. It was shared by his teacher as a way of celebrating defining moments, such as teeth falling out. I don’t know what she was […]

Cognitive dissonance. You know that feeling when a deeply seated belief you hold is shattered by new evidence? Cognitive dissonance is a psychological phenomena that occurs when there is a clash between beliefs or a belief and evidence. Let me tell you a story. The first time I went to the far North, I took a group […]

Elvis Costello and the (Law of) Attractions
April 28, 2016

Like Elvis Costello’s aim, every word of this story is true. Do you find the movie the Secret interesting but hokey? I do, and I have a lot of personal anecdotes that support it’s claims, however something does not quite sit right. So gather around and ponder on this tale, I would love to know […]

Best-self, it is that version of you that you know is bad ass, someone you admire and like to associate yourself with. What I recognize as I get older is that life is often like a sine wave. There are good parts and bad parts, happy times and painful times. Also, there are times when […]

Stories: Serious Sages for any Occassion
March 30, 2016

Stories have long been one of my secret weapons. It is often easier to make up a story than find an expert to communicate a particular message with my son. In particular I used them for preparing Cai for arduous adventures, ones where he needed to be braced and ready to reach deep within himself. […]

Be ye constant: St David & simplicity
March 1, 2016

“Brothers be ye constant.” St David’s last words to his disciples Today is St. David’s Day. Not as well known as St Patrick, he is the patron saint of Wales. It always amuses me the way people celebrate Patrick. He was a monk, monks don’t do falling over drunk, so I’m almost glad that David […]

Vision and strength: Choosing what to focus on
February 23, 2016

I hold a vision of cosy interactions with my son when I feel like I have just shaped the future. It is my favorite part of parenting. We had one of those moments while driving into school recently. Cai had been to the climbing wall the previous night and was telling me about a problem […]

Self-Reliance: MacGyver Moments and Tenacity
February 19, 2016

Yesterday, I was reminded of a reason that outdoor activities are so good for children; they teach self-reliance. Cai & a friend were going skiing, so I asked to be dropped off with the dog 6 miles away along a trail. The day was beautiful, there was a lot of fresh snow and someone had […]

Self-Denial, Risk and Parenting: 
February 12, 2016

“I regard it as the foremost task of education to insure the survival of these qualities: an enterprising curiosity, an undefeatable spirit, tenacity in pursuit, readiness for sensible self-denial, and above all, compassion.” Kurt Hahn When you shouldn’t do something is it sensible self-denial?  All I know is not doing something I love is hard. […]